Gender identity and sexual attraction, part 3 – vocabulary for attraction in the triangle gender model

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We can extend much of the continuum vocabulary forward, with careful consideration to agender/genderless and partially gendered people. There will be some ambiguity, and some outright gaps, some of which we will attempt to fill with new vocabulary.

For example:

  • Consider neptunic.
    • Continuum definition: a person (of any gender) who desires people who are female or nonbinary is neptunic.
    • Triangle definition: A person (of any or no gender) who desires people who are female, nonbinary, or agender/genderless, is neptunic.
  • Consider mercuric.
    • Continuum definition: a person (of any gender) who desires people who are female or male is mercuric.
    • Triangle definition: this could extend in two different ways. It could include agender/genderless people, or not. For the purposes of this blog post we will extend it to not include agender/genderless people; this means we need a new term for the other possible extension.
  • Consider a person who is attracted only to agender/genderless people. There is no term in the continuum model which would naturally extend to this; we need a new word.
  • The continuum model had several words which applied only if the desirer was male, or female, or nonbinary. We need new terms for agender/genderless desirers.

Terms for attraction by gender of the desired

In addition to all the terms carried forward, we add the following:

Here’s a diagram:

Terms for attraction to particular gender combinations in the triangle model

Terms for attraction if the desirer is agender/genderless

If the desirer is agender/genderless, we add the following terms:

  • An agender/genderless person who desires people regardless of gender or lack thereof is dahlian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires agender/genderless people is delphinian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires women is azalian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires men is thistlian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires gendered nonmen is plumerian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires nonbinary people is wisterian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires gendered nonwomen is lilacian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires nonmen is geranian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires nonwomen is irisian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires men or women is orchidian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires agender/genderless and nonbinary people is magnolian.

Here’s a diagram:

Terms for attraction to particular gender combinations in the triangle model if the desirer is agender/genderless

The terms magnolian, plumerian, wisterian, and lilacian appear to be lacking non-desirer-gender-specific equivalents. If you know of any, please tell me. I suppose, in the absence of specific terms, a male person who desired female people and nonbinary people could call himself a male plumerian, in the same way that some trixic people call themselves nonbinary lesbians.

Deep breath

(hands over ears)

OMG

WORD OVERLOAD

SO MANY WORDS

STOP WITH THE WORDS ALREADY

SEX IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN

I feel a bit like J. Evans Pritchard, Ph. D. I have drowned human love in a sea of vocabulary and stretched it out to dry on mathematical axes. Please rip out these blog posts and go read a good love story.

Rip it out! — Dead Poets Society

but anyway

… those are some of the labels for people (perhaps of a particular gender, or perhaps not) who desire other people in particular combinations of genders.

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Gender identity and sexual attraction, part 2 – vocabulary for attraction in the continuum gender model

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Some words are used to describe desire for particular genders, regardless of the gender of the desirer:

Terms for attraction by gender of the desired

People whose desire is not defined by the gender of the desired:

  • A person (of any gender) who desires people of all genders is pansexual or omnisexual.
    • The binary model used bisexual for people who fit this definition. But since there are more than two genders, the bi- prefix doesn’t really fit here anymore.
  • A person (of any gender) who does not desire people is asexual.

People who desire one gender in particular:

  • A person (of any gender) who desires people who are female is venusic or womasexual.
  • A person (of any gender) who desires people who are male is marsic or masexual.
  • A person (of any gender) who desires people who are nonbinary is ceterosexual or enboric or stellaric. The term skoliosexual is now frowned upon because skolios can mean “crooked.” Allotroposexual is another potential alternative.

People who desire some specific combination of genders:

  • A person (of any gender) who desires people who are female or nonbinary is neptunic.
  • A person (of any gender) who desires people who are male or nonbinary is uranic.
  • A person (of any gender who desires people who are female or male is mercuric.
    • The binary model used bisexual for people who fit this definition too. So in the new model, bisexual is ambiguous. Best not to use it.

Here’s a diagram:

Terms for attraction to particular gender combinations in the continuum model

There are also terms which are specific to the gender of the desirer.

Terms for attraction if the desirer is male

If the desirer is male additional terms can be used:

  • A male who desires people regardless of gender is astronic or marblic.
  • A male who desires people who are female is mlw or straight.
  • A male who desires people who are female or nonbinary is litian.
  • A male who desires people who are male is achillean, gay, hyacique, mlm, vincian, or wildean although achillean is frowned upon by some because of Achilles’ non-consensual relationship with his slave-woman Briseis.
  • A male who desires people who are nonbinary is asteroidian, astroidian, or mlnb.
  • A nonbinary male who desires people who are female is umbalian.
  • A nonbinary male who desires people who are male is azurian.

Here’s a diagram:

Terms for attraction to particular gender combinations in the continuum model if the desirer is male

Terms for attraction if the desirer is female

If the desirer is female additional terms can be used:

  • A female who desires people who are female is lesbian or sapphic or wlw.
  • A female who desires people who are female or nonbinary is agatic.
  • A female who desires people who are male is straight or wlm.
  • A female who desires people who are male or nonbinary is citrinian.
  • A female who desires people who are nonbinary is asterian or wlnb.

Here is a diagram:

Terms for attraction to particular gender combinations in the continuum model if the desirer is female

Terms for attraction if the desirer is nonbinary

Here is a diagram:

Terms for attraction to particular gender combinations in the continuum model if the desirer is nonbinary

Okay that’s a lot of words.

Next time… even more words. Sorry.

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Gender identity and sexual attraction, part 1 – models for gender identity

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Last time I presented a couple of flowcharts for sexual attraction. But they weren’t really adequate. So let’s dig into gender identity a little.

To set the tone, here is Irving Kaufman singing Edgar Leslie and James Monaco’s 1925 song “Masculine Women! Feminine Men!”

Masculine Women! Feminine Men!

I present three models for gender identity.

It’s important to realize that these are just models. We’re going to try to use them to describe people, but the people are the important thing – not the model. If a real person and an artificial model don’t fit together, it is the model that is at fault, not the person.

Binary model

The binary model I grew up with admits of only two genders. It is useful only as a starting point for further development.

Binary gender model

We can express this mathematically as G2 = {♀, ♂}. We can define some labels:

  • A female person has gender ♀.
  • A male person has gender ♂.

Ugh. Surely we can do better than this.

Continuum model

The continuum model extends the binary model by creating a continuous spectrum of genders between the two genders in the binary model. This allows for more meaningful discourse but is still flawed.

Continuum gender model

We can express this mathematically as Gc = { (1 − λ)♀ + λ♂ | λ ∈ [0, 1] }. λ tells us the relative position of the gender compared to the binary genders ♀ and ♂. The model reduces to G2 in the case where λ ∈ {0, 1}.

We can define some labels:

  • A female person has λ near 0.
  • A male person has λ near 1.
  • A nonbinary person has λ away from 0 and 1.

The Galactian Alignments system allows for gender alignment of nonbinary people:

  • A female-aligned nonbinary person is lunarian.
  • A male-aligned nonbinary person is solarian.
  • A non-aligned nonbinary person is stellarian.

Here’s the same diagram showing the labels.

Gender continuum with labels

That’s a little better.

Triangle model

The triangle model extends the continuum model by adding a notion of gender saturation:

Triangle gender model

To express this mathematically we introduce ⚪ – meaning agender/genderlessness – and identify it with 0. We define the triangle GΔ = { κ((1 − λ)♀ + λ♂) | κ, λ ∈ [0, 1] }. κ is the degree of gender saturation. This reduces to the continuum model Gc in the case where κ = 1.

New definitions:

  • A gendered person has κ near 1.
  • An agender/genderless person has κ near 0.
  • A partially gendered person has κ away from 0 and 1.
  • A female person has (λ, κ) near (0, 1).
  • A male person has (λ, κ) near (1, 1).

Here’s the same diagram showing the labels:

Triangle gender model with labels

Better still.

Now, even this model is flawed – for example, it doesn’t fit with genderfluid or bimodal people – but I’ll stop here for the sake of space.

It is likely that, even as far as it goes, this post contains mistakes. If you find any please let me know.

Exercise: are agender/genderless people nonbinary?

Some sexual identification flowcharts

Here’s a sexual identification flowchart I made based on the binary gender model I grew up with:

Sexual identification flowchart

This is inadequate because it does not acknowledge the existence of:

  • People who are neither simply “male” nor simply “female”
  • People who don’t want to have sex

So I made an updated version:

I said the REAL sexual identification flowchart

That’s a little better. But I like this one best of all:

Perfection

Next time, more on the “this gets interesting” bit.