Gender identity and sexual attraction, part 3 – vocabulary for attraction in the triangle gender model

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We can extend much of the continuum vocabulary forward, with careful consideration to agender/genderless and partially gendered people. There will be some ambiguity, and some outright gaps, some of which we will attempt to fill with new vocabulary.

For example:

  • Consider neptunic.
    • Continuum definition: a person (of any gender) who desires people who are female or nonbinary is neptunic.
    • Triangle definition: A person (of any or no gender) who desires people who are female, nonbinary, or agender/genderless, is neptunic.
  • Consider mercuric.
    • Continuum definition: a person (of any gender) who desires people who are female or male is mercuric.
    • Triangle definition: this could extend in two different ways. It could include agender/genderless people, or not. For the purposes of this blog post we will extend it to not include agender/genderless people; this means we need a new term for the other possible extension.
  • Consider a person who is attracted only to agender/genderless people. There is no term in the continuum model which would naturally extend to this; we need a new word.
  • The continuum model had several words which applied only if the desirer was male, or female, or nonbinary. We need new terms for agender/genderless desirers.

Terms for attraction by gender of the desired

In addition to all the terms carried forward, we add the following:

Here’s a diagram:

Terms for attraction to particular gender combinations in the triangle model

Terms for attraction if the desirer is agender/genderless

If the desirer is agender/genderless, we add the following terms:

  • An agender/genderless person who desires people regardless of gender or lack thereof is dahlian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires agender/genderless people is delphinian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires women is azalian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires men is thistlian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires gendered nonmen is plumerian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires nonbinary people is wisterian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires gendered nonwomen is lilacian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires nonmen is geranian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires nonwomen is irisian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires men or women is orchidian.
  • An agender/genderless person who desires agender/genderless and nonbinary people is magnolian.

Here’s a diagram:

Terms for attraction to particular gender combinations in the triangle model if the desirer is agender/genderless

The terms magnolian, plumerian, wisterian, and lilacian appear to be lacking non-desirer-gender-specific equivalents. If you know of any, please tell me. I suppose, in the absence of specific terms, a male person who desired female people and nonbinary people could call himself a male plumerian, in the same way that some trixic people call themselves nonbinary lesbians.

Deep breath

(hands over ears)

OMG

WORD OVERLOAD

SO MANY WORDS

STOP WITH THE WORDS ALREADY

SEX IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN

I feel a bit like J. Evans Pritchard, Ph. D. I have drowned human love in a sea of vocabulary and stretched it out to dry on mathematical axes. Please rip out these blog posts and go read a good love story.

Rip it out! — Dead Poets Society

but anyway

… those are some of the labels for people (perhaps of a particular gender, or perhaps not) who desire other people in particular combinations of genders.

It is likely that this post contains mistakes. If you find any please let me know.

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